Healthy Relationships Have:

  • Trust
  • Respect
  • Equality
  • Making decisions together
  • Valuing your partner’s thoughts/feelings
  • Communicating without threat or consequence
  • Support
  • Cooperation
  • Accountability
  • Safety
  • Partnership

Self Care Tips for Abuse and Trauma Survivors (PDF)

*Source: The National Domestic Violence Hotline

Red Flags of an Unhealthy Relationship Include:

  • Quick involvement
  • Jealousy
  • Outbursts of anger
  • Overly critical behavior
  • Possessiveness
  • Blaming others for your own problems/feelings
  • Cruelty to animals or children
  • Unrealistic expectations
  • Controlling behavior
  • Isolation
  • Disrespect
  • Hypersensitivity
  • Expecting control during sex
  • Rigid sex roles
  • Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde behavior
  • Past battering
  • Breaking/striking objects
  • Using force during an argument

Safety Planning Checklist

Power and Control Wheel

General Power and Control Wheel (PDF)

Immigrant Power and Control Wheel (PDF)

Deaf Power and Control Wheel (PDF)

Power and Control Wheel in Spanish (PDF)

LGBTQ Power and Control Wheel (PDF)

Technology Power and Control Wheel (PDF)

Equality Wheel (PDF)

The power and control wheels represent the lived experience of diverse survivors who have an abusive partner. They show the most common abusive behaviors and can be a helpful tool in understanding the overall patterns of violence we see. The equality wheel describes the changes needed for abusive partners to move from being abusive to non-violent partnership.

FAQ for Commonly Used Acronyms

APS: Adult Protective Services
Bi: Bisexual
BIP: Batterer Intervention Program (52 week, 16 week)
CPO: Criminal Protective Order
CPS: Child Protective Services
CSEC: Commercially Sexually Exploited Children
DA: District Attorney
DV: Domestic Violence
EPRO: Emergency Protective Restraining Order
ESL: English as a Second Language
FJC: Family Justice Center
FVC: Family Violence Center
FVPSA: Family Violence Prevention and Services Act
GSM: Gender and Sexual Minorities
HT: Human Trafficking
IPV: Intimate Partner Violence
LAP: Lethality Assessment Protocol
LE: Law Enforcement
LEP: Limited English Proficient
LGBTQ: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer
MSM: men who have sex with men
PC: Peaceful Contact Order
PO: Probation Officer
RO: Restraining Order
SA: Sexual Assault
SART: Sexual Assault Response Team
SP: Safety Plan
TDV: Teen Dating Violence
TRO: Temporary Restraining Order
T-visa: Immigration relief for victims of trafficking
U-Visa: Immigration relief for victims of crime
VAWA: Violence Against Women Act
VOCA: Victims of Crime Act
VWA: Victim Witness Assistance